People are different it’s so unfortunate that some of the communities we were raised in have this tailor made expectation in terms of behaviour that they want to apply to everyone as a one size fits all and if you don’t conform you are deemed a failure. You are born, go to school, get a partner or job first, get married, work, work, work pretending to be in a happy marriage to make society happy whilst you are in it for the sake of the children and then eventually die.
This is what society deems as success and if you do not fit that template you are considered a failure, haana kudzidza, irovha, haana mukadzi, haana murume you are instantly labeled by people who live in a prison of what other people think is a successful and happy life. Your power though comes from the fact that you have taken the less trodden path and it is on this adventure far from the madding crowd and the ravages of an expectant society in your life that you truly start living.
If education mattered to everyone there would be no uplifting success stories from the uneducated. If marriage was the key to self actualisation for everyone all married people would be trailblazers in their various endeavours and fit hand in glove with society’s description and expectations of success. If finding a job was the secret map to King Solomon’s minds you would only work a few years and you are set for life. The issue is all these expectations are ravenous and gluttonous and can’t seem to be satisfied because it’s a system meant for control. You should focus on achieving those expectations whilst forgetting to live life in the process, that’s what the insatiable cycle is like. The one who doesn’t conform is awake and questions authority whether it be religious or political because they don’t have inhibitions of the expectations of what other people think or what society deems success hence are uncontrollable.
Next time you see a person who you deem as not normal just pause and introspect maybe you are the one who is just following the rules but jeopardising your dreams, wants and needs because of what people will say. Pause, reflect, address and treat people in a tailor made way with respect and dignity because not everyone conforms and not everyone is the same. Peace – Ngoni Said It..
