By Prof. F. Kasese
Today, I want to share with you a profound African proverb that speaks directly to the heart of family dynamics. The proverb says; “When two elephants fight, it is the grass that suffers.
“This proverb is a powerful reminder of the devastating consequences of conflict and strife within families.
When a husband and wife are always at each other’s throats, it is not just the two of them who suffer. The entire family is affected, especially the children. They become the grass that suffers, trampled and bruised by the conflict and tension that permeates their home.
Unresolved family feuds can run deep, causing pain and hurt that can last for generations. Often, these feuds are fueled by superstitions and unwavering mindsets that attribute every negative outcome to witchcraft or evil spirits. Divination and macromanza become the order of the day, as family members seek to uncover the “real” reasons behind their misfortunes.
But the Bible tells us that this is not the way of God. In Matthew 18:15, Jesus teaches us, “If your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over.” This verse reminds us that conflict resolution should always begin with a spirit of love and reconciliation, rather than accusation and blame.
In Ephesians 4:31-32, the apostle Paul writes, “Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” This passage encourages us to let go of our anger and bitterness, and instead choose kindness, compassion, and forgiveness.
So, what can we do to break the cycle of conflict and strife in our families? Here are a few takeaways:
- Choose forgiveness: Let go of your anger and bitterness, and choose to forgive those who have wronged you.
- Seek reconciliation: Make an effort to resolve conflicts and reconcile with family members who may be at odds with you.
- Practice kindness and compassion: Treat your family members with kindness and compassion, even when they may not deserve it.
- Seek God’s wisdom: Ask God for wisdom and guidance in navigating difficult family dynamics.
In conclusion, the proverb “When two elephants fight, it is the grass that suffers” is a powerful reminder of the devastating consequences of conflict and strife within families. But with God’s help, we can break the cycle of conflict and create a more peaceful and loving home environment.
May God bless you and guide you as you seek to build stronger, more loving relationships with your family members in 2025.
Reflection Questions
- How has conflict and strife affected your family dynamics?
- What steps can you take to break the cycle of conflict and create a more peaceful home environment?
- How can you practice kindness, compassion, and forgiveness in your relationships with your family members?
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