Rekindling love beyond loss: Navigating next marriages with faith and grace
BY DOROTHY BELLA TAMBARA MAHASO
In the intricate tapestry of life, love often plays a central role. It’s a force that can lift us to incredible heights or, when lost, plunge us into the depths of despair.
For those who have experienced the loss of a spouse through divorce or death, the idea of love the next time around can be both tantalizing and terrifying. But there’s hope, and there’s faith, and there’s a path to navigate this journey with grace.
I’m MumCoach Dorothy Bella Tambara nee Mahaso, a compassionate life and mindset coach, and I’m here to shed light on a subject that’s close to my heart – guiding high-achieving Christian singles over 30 towards the promise of love once more. I know firsthand the complexities of love, loss, and finding love again.
The Landscape of Love After Loss
Many high-achieving Christian singles find themselves in unique circumstances. They’ve tasted success in their careers, achieved remarkable feats, and nurtured their faith. Yet, somewhere along the way, love slipped through their fingers.
It might have been a painful divorce, letdown or the heart-wrenching passing of a beloved spouse. The result is often a profound sense of loss, confusion, and even guilt.
These singles yearn for love and companionship but wonder if it’s possible to find a partner who shares their faith, values, and busy lifestyle. They’re cautious, and rightly so. They don’t want to compromise their hard-earned career momentum or their deeply held beliefs.
FLAME: Igniting Hope and Faith
This is where FLAME steps in. FLAME isn’t just an acronym; it’s a beacon of hope for those seeking love and faith after loss. FLAME stands for “Finding Love After Moments of Emptiness,” and it represents a transformative journey.
The FLAME Convention, taking place from the 24th to the 26th of November in Cape Town, is a gathering of kindred spirits – high-achieving Christian singles who’ve walked through the fire of loss and emerged with their faith intact. It’s a safe haven for those who desire not only to rekindle love but also to align it with their faith and career ambitions.
Our convention is more than just a meeting; it’s a transformative experience. It’s an opportunity to learn, grow, and connect with others who’ve faced similar challenges. It’s a chance to discover proven systems for balancing a successful career with a rich personal life.
The Power of Pre-Remarital Counselling
One of our central missions is to advocate for pre-remarital counselling, particularly for circumstanced singles. We believe that by providing guidance and support before entering a next marriage, we can significantly reduce divorce rates. Our goal is ambitious yet achievable: to bring divorce rates in next marriages down to 25% or less.
Hope for the Future
In the columns to come, we’ll delve deeper into the intricate dynamics of love, faith, and career for high-achieving Christian singles. We’ll discuss the unique challenges they face and the solutions that FLAME offers. We’ll explore the incredible stories of transformation within our community, and we’ll give you a glimpse into the programs and initiatives that are making a difference.
In a world where next marriages are increasingly common, it’s our mission to ensure that they succeed. Love, faith, and career need not be mutually exclusive. With the right guidance, support, and a touch of grace, high-achieving Christian singles can indeed find love once more without compromising their faith or careers.
Join us on this journey of rekindling love beyond loss. There’s hope, there’s faith, and there’s FLAME.
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ABOUT THE COLUMNIST
Mrs.Dorothy Bella Tambara nee Mahaso, affectionately known as Mum Coach Dorothy Bella Tambara, is a dynamic speaker and coach whose values of dedication, sincerity, excellence, and authenticity radiate in every interaction. A distinguished finalist of the WOMEN CHANGING THE WORLD AWARDS 2023 in the Leader of the Year category, Dorothy Bella Tambara’s impact is undeniable.
With her unwavering affirmation, “I love, love,” and her transformative message, “Beyond Your Pain, You Can Love Again,” Mum Coach Dorothy Bella Tambara infuses warmth and vitality into her engagements. Drawing from her personal life experiences, she offers unique perspectives that captivate her audience. Her down-to-earth humour evokes laughter while imparting invaluable lessons. From the moment she steps onto the stage, her engaging smile captures hearts, leaving attendees equipped with empowering tools and resilient mindsets that extend far beyond the event’s conclusion.
Dorothy’s mentoring is fuelled by passion, guiding clients toward elevating their personal lives to unprecedented heights. Her innate ability to connect with diverse audiences facilitates transformative training, enabling individuals to gracefully navigate life’s challenges. Her dedication is especially evident in her commitment to assisting single Christian adults mostly mothers in reclaiming their lives and re-entering the world of courtship, remarriage, and blended families if they choose to do so.
A contributor to Women Thrive Magazine’s October 2022 issue and an invited presenter at the 7th International Conference on Future of Women 2024, Dorothy Bella Tambara is a beacon of empowerment. Her areas of expertise encompass her series “From Pain to Gain,” “Beyond Your Pain: You Can Love Again,” “Imperishable Esthers,” “Healing Hearts,” and her latest endeavour F.L.A.M.E. Mum Coach Dorothy Bella Tambara’s values of dedication, sincerity, excellence, and authenticity radiate in every interaction. “F.L.A.M.E. an acronym denoting Finding Love After Moments of Emptiness.” is Dorothy’s HYBRID initiative for adult Christian singles, both male and female. Through these initiatives, she addresses courtship, remarriage, blended family dynamics, relationships, and effective parenting strategies.
Dorothy Bella Tambara’s transformative impact has earned her the endearing title of Mum Coach or simply Mother, resonating wherever she imparts her wisdom. Beyond her professional endeavours, she finds joy in creating treasured moments with her husband, Dr. Cosmas Tambara, and cherishing her youngest, Chido. Engaging in a bit of Afrikaans endearment, she affectionately calls her my “laat lammetjie,” the late lamb, exchanging treats for cuddles. When not nurturing her family, Dorothy is engaged in evangelism, spreading her spiritual fervour.
Dorothy Bella Tambara’s journey encapsulates resilience, empowerment, and the limitless potential of the human spirit. Her unparalleled commitment to helping individuals transcend pain and rediscover the power of love is a testament to her unwavering dedication. Through her vibrant presence and transformative message, she continues to kindle flames of hope, healing, and self-renewal.
