Living an unfulfilled and unhappy life is a burden I carried for the longest time. I was constantly searching for that elusive “something” to bring me joy.
It wasn’t until I adopted these nine habits that things started moving in a positive direction.
These habits have not only changed my life but also my outlook on it. They’ve helped me find the happiness and fulfillment I was desperately seeking.
Now, I want to share these transformative habits with you. So sit back, relax, and let me take you through this eye-opening journey of self-discovery and growth.
1.
Gratitude journaling
Feeling unfulfilled and unhappy often stems from focusing on what’s wrong in our lives, rather than what’s right.
That’s where gratitude journaling comes in. It forces you to concentrate on the positive aspects of your life. And trust me, no matter how grim things seem, there are always positives.
All you have to do is jot down three things you’re grateful for every day. They don’t have to be major; even simple joys like a good cup of coffee or a phone call from a friend count.
Creating this habit made me realize just how much I had to be thankful for. It shifted my perspective from dissatisfaction to appreciation and contentment.
Try it for yourself. You’ll be surprised at how much it can transform your outlook and, subsequently, your life. But remember, consistency is key – make it a daily practice for maximum benefits.
2.
Daily exercise
I used to view exercise as a chore, something I had to do to maintain my physical health. Little did I know, it was just as vital for my mental and emotional well-being.
Once I started incorporating exercise into my daily routine, I experienced a dramatic shift in my mood and overall happiness. It wasn’t about losing weight or sculpting a perfect body; it was about the endorphins that flooded my system after each workout.
I’ll never forget how I felt after completing my first 5k run. I was tired, yes, but also exhilarated. It was a feeling of accomplishment, of overcoming my limits, that left me euphoric for hours after.
That’s when I realized that exercise wasn’t just good for my body – it was therapy for my soul. Now, I make sure to get some form of physical activity every day, be it a run in the park, a yoga session, or even a brisk walk around the block.
Exercise has become a non-negotiable part of my day, and the positive impact on my happiness and fulfillment is more than worth the sweat and effort.
3.
Developing a reading habit
Once upon a time, reading was purely a leisure activity for me, something I did when I had spare time. But as I delved deeper into the world of books, I discovered how transformative this habit could be.
Reading is not just about absorbing information or getting lost in a fictional universe. It’s an exercise in empathy, understanding, and self-reflection. And did you know that it can actually increase your lifespan? A study by Yale University found that people who read for 30 minutes a day live an average of two years longer than those who don’t.
Incorporating reading into my daily routine opened up new worlds and perspectives for me, broadened my horizons, and made me feel more connected to humanity as a whole. It also provided a much-needed escape from the pressures of daily life, allowing me to find peace and solace in the words on the page.
Whether it’s a thrilling mystery novel or a thought-provoking non-fiction piece, I make sure to get my daily dose of literature. It’s more than a habit now – it’s a lifestyle.
4.
Mindful meditation
In our fast-paced world, it’s easy to get caught up in the whirlwind of activities and responsibilities. We often rush through our days without taking a moment to pause and just be.
That’s where mindful meditation comes in. This practice is all about anchoring yourself in the present moment, observing your thoughts and feelings without judgement.
I started meditating for a few minutes each day, and it has made a world of difference. It helped me become more aware of my mental and emotional state, which in turn made it easier to manage stress and negative emotions.
Meditation isn’t about emptying your mind or achieving some sort of transcendental state. It’s about being present, being mindful, and acknowledging your thoughts and feelings without getting swept away by them.
Now, I start each day with a short meditation session. It helps me set a calm and focused tone for the day, and brings a sense of peace that carries through the rest of my daily activities.
Give it a try. You might find that it brings you the inner peace and fulfillment you’ve been seeking.
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Saying no
For the longest time, I was a people-pleaser. I consistently put others’ needs before my own, often at the cost of my happiness and fulfillment. Until one day, I realized that I was doing myself a disservice.
Learning to say no was a game-changer for me. It wasn’t about being selfish or unkind – it was about setting boundaries and prioritizing my needs.
Saying no freed up time and energy for things that truly mattered to me. It gave me the opportunity to focus on personal growth and self-care, which significantly improved my quality of life.
Every time you say yes to something you don’t really want to do, you’re saying no to something you could have done instead.
Don’t be afraid to say no when required. It may be difficult at first, but with practice, it becomes easier and incredibly liberating.
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Forgiving and letting go
We’ve all been hurt by others. It’s a part of life. But what I’ve learned is that holding onto resentment and anger only hurts me in the end.
Forgiveness was a tough lesson for me. It involved confronting old wounds, but once I truly forgave, it was like a weight lifted off my shoulders.
Understand this – forgiveness isn’t about condoning wrong actions, it’s about freeing yourself from the heavy burden of resentment. It’s about letting go and moving forward.
By forgiving, you allow yourself to heal and open up to happiness and fulfillment. It’s not easy, but the peace it brings is unparalleled. So let go of past hurts, forgive those who have wronged you, and most importantly, forgive yourself.
7.
Self-care
I used to be of the mindset that self-care was an indulgence, a luxury I couldn’t afford with my busy schedule. I was constantly on the go, trying to meet deadlines and fulfill obligations, until I hit a wall.
I was burned out, unhappy, and far from fulfilled. That’s when I realized that self-care isn’t a luxury, it’s a necessity.
Now, I make time each week for self-care activities – whether it’s taking a long bubble bath, reading a book, or just sitting quietly with a cup of tea. These moments of solitude and relaxation recharge me mentally and emotionally, helping me face the challenges of life with renewed strength and positivity.
You can’t pour from an empty cup. Take care of yourself first so you can show up as your best self in every area of your life.
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Volunteering and helping others
There’s something incredibly fulfilling about helping others. It’s a simple act that can bring immense joy and satisfaction.
I found that volunteering my time and resources to causes I am passionate about brought a sense of purpose to my life. It made me realize that even small actions can make a big difference in the world.
Whether it’s helping out at a local charity, mentoring a young person, or simply lending a listening ear to someone in need, the act of giving is a powerful happiness booster.
Don’t underestimate the power of altruism. It’s a habit that benefits both the giver and the receiver, enriching lives in more ways than one. So find a cause you care about and start making a difference today
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Embracing imperfection
Perfection is an illusion. It’s an unattainable standard that only leads to frustration and disappointment.
I spent years chasing perfection, only to realize that it was the pursuit of an impossible goal that was leaving me unfulfilled and unhappy.
Once I embraced my imperfections and accepted that it’s okay to make mistakes, I felt a surge of freedom and relief. It allowed me to learn, grow, and most importantly, be kinder to myself.
So don’t strive for perfection. Instead, strive for progress. Embrace your flaws, learn from your mistakes, and celebrate your victories. After all, it’s the journey, not the destination, that truly matters.
Embracing the journey
Life is a beautiful, complex tapestry woven with threads of experiences, emotions, and interactions. It’s a journey, not a destination – a truth I’ve come to embrace after adopting these nine habits.
These habits didn’t just fill the void with unhappiness and fulfillment in my life; they transformed my perspective, making me realize that the quest for fulfillment isn’t about reaching a specific endpoint. Rather, it’s about appreciating the journey, cherishing the highs and lows, and continually striving for growth and self-improvement.
As we navigate through life, it’s essential to remember that it’s okay to feel unfulfilled or unhappy at times. These feelings are as much a part of our human experience as joy and contentment.
The key lies in acknowledging these feelings and actively working towards transforming them through positive habits. It’s about carving out your path to happiness and fulfillment.
In the words of Ralph Waldo Emerson, “Life is a journey, not a destination.” So embrace your journey, adopt habits that nourish your soul, and watch as your life transforms into a tale of happiness and fulfillment.
By Lachlan Brown
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To your greatness, Coach Doc Luke Moyana
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