NYASHADZAISHE RUSHWAYA
When anger isn’t handled well, it can easily turn into bitterness. Bitterness is a poison that can lead to physical and emotional problems.
When you learn to handle anger in healthy ways, you can avoid the difficulty of bitterness.
Each incident of bitterness begins with hurt. Whether someone deliberately or unintentionally hurt you, the wound can run deep. If you deny it and don’t process it with forgiveness, the hurt you experience can turn into bitterness.
Bitterness saps your joy. It can steal away the goodness from your life. It paints a blue sky black and holds you in bondage. Bitterness hurts you far more than the person who originally hurt you. It can destroy your peace or your inner peace.
When held for a long time, bitterness can create health problems. You may experience headaches, tooth grinding, disrupted sleep, high blood pressure, ulcers, and other health issues. These problems can lead to serious health concerns like diabetes, heart disease, and stroke. It’s important to deal with bitterness to avoid these health issues that can decrease your quality of life.
Bitterness doesn’t offer you any benefits. It can even cause distance in your relationship with God. A bitter spirit creates untold suffering
Bitterness never affects just one person. If you are bitter, your bitterness spills onto everyone around you. Your negativity can cause others to avoid you. They may hear your stories of why you became bitter, then worry that you may become bitter with them for similar infractions. Bitterness can lead to damaged relationship.
You may even feel bitter toward God for a loss you experienced. It’s human nature to blame God for things that he could have made turn out in a different way. Your bitterness toward God could be creating big problems in your spiritual life.
The key to fighting bitterness is forgiveness. When you forgive, you let the other person off the hook for their wrongs. You can hand your hurt over to God, who will handle it with perfect justice. Then you can step into freedom instead of being held in the bondage of bitterness.
The person who wronged you doesn’t need to apologize or make amends to you for forgiveness to work its healing power. Forgiveness is an act of your will. It doesn’t require any contact with your offender. It is simply an act of faith between you and God.
In my life I have my mother and my twin every time I open my mouth to suggest anything or to do a business in my life they will come take the most of the products and never pay. My inner soul tells me that if we do any project as the 3 of us we can come up with a very strong team but that has not happened till today.
Their wrongs may have had a negative impact on my entire life. i may be nursing a grudge against my mum an twin ,but By forgiving you release the desire to get what you never had. You can surrender your hurt over to God, who will take your bitterness and replace it with peace.
If your offender is still in your life, you may need to set boundaries against inappropriate behaviour to guard against further bitterness. Once you forgive, it doesn’t mean that reconciliation is required or even wise in some cases. You can forgive while placing boundaries of protection around yourself. Boundaries will help you choose freedom without getting hurt again and again.
Forgiveness and boundary setting are difficult steps to take on your own.
If your offender is still in your life, you may need to set boundaries against inappropriate behaviour to guard against further bitterness. Once you forgive, it doesn’t mean that reconciliation is required or even wise in some cases. You can forgive while placing boundaries of protection around yourself. Boundaries will help you choose freedom without getting hurt again and again.
“Therefore, I will not keep silent, I will speak out in the anguish of my spirit, I will complain in the bitterness of my soul “job 7:11
Job suffered great losses though he deserved none of them. He decided to vent his bitterness to God instead of holding it in. This choice is wise for you too. When you vent bitterness in safe ways, you can find healing.
Every person has difficult seasons that can feel bitter. But God promises to give us restoration. He wants us to place our hope in him so we can overcome our bitterness. He doesn’t want us to stay stuck in our troubles but to move forward with his guidance.
